“For women, getting angry is socially unacceptable, even when the anger is over violence, discrimination, misogyny, and other forms of oppression. Anger is unacceptable because angry women are women in touch with their passion and power, especially in relation to men, which threatens the entire patriarchal order. It’s unacceptable because it forces men to confront the reality of male privilege and women’s oppression and their involvement in it, even if only as passive beneficiaries. Women’s anger challenges men to acknowledge attempts to trivialize oppression with “I was only kidding.” And women’s anger is unacceptable to men who look to women to take care of them, to prop up their need to feel in control, and to support them in their competition with other men. When women are less than gracious and good-humored about their own oppression, men often feel uncomfortable, embarrassed, at a loss, and therefore vulnerable.”—Allan G. Johnson (via acidtooth)
a friend of mine reposted this on behalf of another friend of hers on her facebook wall… obviously i’m not going to share anyone’s personal information without consent but HOLY SHIT. i feel like people really need to know about this.
"Everyone I fall in love with has already fallen in love with someone I respect. So now, I’m an altruist. Oh fuck. Just this once can I root for the home team? I’m always the bee to kamikaze to save the precious queen. Watch the sympathy turn to pity from my sympathetic friends.”